About
Recognizing You’re Lost
It’s important to find connection, to know that what you are saying is being taken seriously, to feel that someone can truly understand your experience on a very basic emotional level. It’s key – not just that someone else understand you, but that you understand and listen to yourself.
And then you need to do something to make the necessary changes.
Getting your Bearings
“What’s past is prologue.”
– William Shakespeare
It’s hard to know where you’re going if you don’t know how you got here.
Decisions and choices don’t just come out of the blue. They come from ideas, emotions and reactions that we have experienced, encoded and incorporated into our lived understanding of the world. By the time we are teens or adults, decisions don’t always feel like choices: they are reactions that come from the engrained and automatic responses to what our lives have taught us thus far.
The problem is, they are choices. And a lot of these choices don’t make sense. Some might even be dysfunctional. They are always an attempt to find a solution – but sometimes instead of helping solve a problem, these choices just create more serious difficulties.
So the therapeutic work starts with getting to know how you managed to get yourself here.
Finding your route
Once you know how you got lost, you are ready to choose the appropriate tools you to get you back on track.
As a therapist, I am in the fortunate position of having a large toolbox from which I can pull the tools I believe are most necessary, most indicated and most useful for each of my patients. These tools come from a variety of different therapeutic styles including, but not limited to CBT, DBT and Relational therapies.
Together, we will figure out which tools work and which aren’t as helpful. As we get to know one another, I will be able to offer better solutions – and you will come to know what kinds of solutions are most helpful.
About me
Equally important, though, is to become clear on where we are living out of alignment with reality. We tend to waste time and energy trying to change things: to make them how we want them to be, rather than accepting what they are.
In order to make change, we have to truly understand what it is that is broken and then decide whether to fix it or just throw it away.
Discomfort is the prerequisite for change – you’re here because you already know something is uncomfortable. My clients would say that I am forthright and direct while also warm and deeply caring. I won’t always tell you what you want to hear, but I will tell you what you need to know. I will challenge you to get better, to grow, to get through where you are stuck. Discomfort is the prerequisite for change – you’re here because you already know something is uncomfortable. The road may be daunting, but it’s better to travel with a guide and companion than wander without a compass.
Moving forward
So here’s the thing… I can tell you about tools and looking back to see how you got here until the cows come home. But the reality is that what studies consistently show is the single most important factor in whether therapy works or not, is the relationship between the therapist and the client.
I believe that therapy is a lot like dating: if there’s no chemistry, there’s no point. And the only way to figure out whether there is chemistry is to meet in person.
So fill out the form below or give me a call and let’s see if it’s a good fit!
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